It seemed so simple - dig up a couple of seedlings for my
nieces - `the one plant they wanted to remember Granny by' said my sister - the
Forget-Me-Not. (It was autumn and I was digging up a couple of tiny plants in Mum's
garden for my sister, just after Dad sold the place.) I potted up 4 little
plants, they all grew and one has put out stems with pale blue flowers -
flowers that produce numbers of seeds, sticky seeds that attach to clothing,
move to other locations...the perfect weed, in other words.
(And J works
in...conservation.)
So why did Mum grow these? She loved the haze of soft
blue they'd confer around the bulbs and above the old bulb foliage right
through spring, in the front half of her country garden, on the outskirts of
Emerald in the Dandenong Ranges. She used to say that they were easy to pull
out and they were...but there were always legions of seeds in the soil, ready
to germinate, so they were...pesky if you didn't want them. And her neighbour
didn't. They were separated, rural-style (happy-days!) by a rough fence of wire
(chicken wire?) so the seeds spread madly, of course. When the neighbour moved,
it's not too surprising that the new one erected a suburban-style paling fence
which gave privacy and would - whether they knew it or not - stop progress of
weed seeds considerably.
But with paling fences, neatness, and that relentless
cutting down of gum trees and the like, why, oh why, do the Dandenong's
continue to become ever more suburban?
(Warning! Soap Box! Gum trees just aren't neat - accept
it! (But they're so often the beautiful manna gum with snow-white trunk above a
rough base; grey gum with smoky-ghost trunk or, as we have, those silver-grey
gums with mature foliage so silver-blue that they're just - sensational.) Stop
raking!
Must we clear every bush, raze every tree, trim every
grass - or - there's 2 options: accept our natural beauty and take precautions;
or move (back) to town. I have read people proposing, ludicrously, that every
gum tree in the hills should be razed! - and I say: where do the lyre birds go
to live?
I admit I've got that frequently seen human gene to try
to be neat - but I limit it to the house and the garden (to a point - while still
trying to commit to Mirabel Osler's `Gentle Plea for Chaos' (1989), too. I want
my garden to look closer to a meadow than a series of plant specimens). The
bushland needs mess or where do the insects live? - those insects that birds
need for their protein intake. OK, off the soapbox.)
Completely different - in a terrific way - were the gardens around a group of
houses in Castlemaine I saw recently, designed by Sam Cox: gently native - only
occasional large domed stones reaching out from the soil, local plants, and
wattles all gold. What I admired most were the lack of paling fences despite
the normal, suburban size of the properties; privacy was conferred by plantings
of shrubs giving a delicate look, and a taller effect to boot. And I fell in
love with Nodding Blue Lily (Stypandra
glauca) (another rare, true blue)! I was also impressed with the lack of
nature strips - Sam discussed this with the shire, and created a couple of
gravel spaces for car parking, with the result being more garden. Grape vine
pergolas, gravel areas for sitting, vegetable patches (and only one small patch
of lawn) were common themes. But other than productive plants, native plants
seemed to be de rigueur.
Forget-Me-Nots would probably
not be welcome here.
Nor at my home.
What
to do?
I asked my Dad, who is 92, and
pretty darn clever: do I give these plants to my nieces (upsetting J) or other
plants Mum loved (maybe hellebores)? `Both!' he says without hesitation.
But I can't do it.I hide the little plants of Forget-Me-Nots so when I'm giving my sister the plants I dug up in Mum's garden and potted for her - Solomon's Seal, nerines in 3 or more colours, lemon wild iris (Dietes), black mondo grass, a columbine and a foxglove - I cravenly Forget-Me-Do (sorry) - and feel a bit guilty for approximately 12 hours - and then, miraculously, I'm let off the hook. I go to stay with my sister, give a little garden advice, and darn it, she has a Forget-Me-Not growing in one of her pots - that I haven't given her.
It may be weedy for her, but it will also give her that haze of porcelain-blue in spring. (From it she'll all-too-quickly get offspring for her daughters.)
And remind us of our mother's
garden - all too well.
Jill
Weatherhead is horticulturist, writer, garden designer and principal at Jill
Weatherhead Garden Design who lives in the Dandenong Ranges east of Melbourne,
and works throughout Victoria (www.jillweatherheadgardendesign.com.au)